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Three steps to make a dream come true

The title of this blogpost was not click bait. I am dead serious. I actually DO have three steps that can help you make a dream come true. Notice that I did not say three "EASY" steps. But they are steps nonetheless. I'm no Zig Ziegler but I have experienced some "dream-come-true" moments in my life and I would love to share how I got there with you. I took these steps. You can take them, too. And you can see your dream(s) become a reality. Ready? Then, read on!

  1. Dream. Step one, you actually need to dream. What do you want, personally, professionally? What do you envision for yourself, your family, your community, the world? Take the dream as far as you want. The Bible says "Without vision, the people perish." I know some people that are indeed the "walking dead." They look like people; they go through the motions of life, but they are like zombies, because they are dead on the inside. Part of the reason why is because they no longer dream. IMG_6220 I made this dream board the other day, to help me picture the kind of life I want to lead, the kind of impact I want to make. Write down your dreams, or illustrate them. Find a way to visualize them, however it best suits you. Something special happens when you make the intangible tangible. For example, I wrote down "Kenya 2015" in a journal a few years back. I didn't know how I would get there; I just knew that I wanted to go. I was dreaming. And then it happened! The Weston A. Price Foundation sent me there to tell people about traditional diets in August of last year. I never expected this turn of events when I scribbled "Kenya 2015" down. But it came to be.
  2. Deem. You need to regard what you want as attainable. Deem it so, or deem it possible. George Michael sang "You gotta have faith." It's about believing it can happen or that you can do it. I know of a cancer treatment clinic that will not accept patients who do not believe the treatment will work. Sound crazy? They simply recognize that belief is a part of the healing process. In the same way, belief plays a pivotal role in realizing your dream. Believe in God. Believe in yourself. Believe it can happen...yes, in your wildest dreams. I was considering becoming a podcaster when a 16 year-old friend of mine told me he was starting a podcast. I literally thought, "If he can do it, I can do it." I believed. I bought equipment and read some books. I began interviewing people. In a span of less than 6 months, I launched it and now my podcast has had over 50,000 downloads. (My 16 year-old friend never followed through on his podcast.)
  3. Do. The first two are wonderful but are not enough to achieve your dream. (Maybe this is why my young friend's podcast never launched?) This last step is a critical piece of the puzzle. You can't just dream or believe without putting in the hard work. This is why I didn't have the word "easy" in my title. You have to DO something. You need to set tangible, measurable goals and implement them to reach your dreams. I have been saying for years that I want to write a book. This is a dream in progress. On the plus side, I am meeting my goal of writing regularly. I have done so for over 6 years now. But other mid-range goals have fallen by the way side. It's time to pick them up again. Otherwise the epitaph on my tombstone may read: "She was going to write a book...one day." I do not want REFUSE to let that be the case. So I have recently found a friend who is going to hold me accountable (read: kick my butt and make sure I take tangible steps) to get at least an e-book completed this. calendar. year. Yes, I am putting it out there. You read it here first.

Some dreams I've dreamed have turned into reality; some are still in process. To achieve them, as you can see, does not require magic or charisma. It's not about manifesting something or tapping into some big dark secret only available to those "in tune with the universe."

It's about dreaming, deeming, and doing. Tell me what are you dreams? Take the first step in making them tangible and write them in the comments below!

 

New year = same old me

Ugh. I hate it when articles or ads (for gyms or fitness clubs) promise  "New year = new you" when the new year rolls around. Personally, I rolled out of bed this morning feeling quite a lot like the same me, not so different from the night before. Today was a day off for me. I made the same choices as I would have yesterday or the week or month before. I read the paper, did some laundry, played Scrabble, made a few phone calls, and cooked and cleaned (just a little). It wasn't a bad day, as days go, but I didn't do all I meant to do--physically or emotionally. I had good intentions to pay bills, go through a pile of papers, even answer some Christmas cards, but...nope. Didn't get to the harder stuff, inside or out.

So, yeah, I am still me, alright. Yesterday's habits are today's, even though the calendar switched from 31 to 1. But, truth be told, I really do want to incorporate new habits/grow/learn/reach/stretch/better myself. What can I do to "lean into" newness, even if I'm the same old me? What small, incremental, attainable changes can I incorporate in 2016?

Here are a few ideas I have in mind. I hope they will be useful for you, too.

  • Set goals...but just a few. I am making a list of mimage3-2easurable goals that will help me grow, personally and professionally. I've got a lot to work on, so I'm getting the feeling the list will be long. This is why I will trim my list down to just three items. Lists that are too long become discouraging and will end up in the dust bin.
  • Choose one thing that lifts you up. Our family took a hike on Old Rag as the new year came to a close. Yesterday I was on a friend's farm. Both activities reminded me of how much I love being in the great outdoors. It invigorates me, calms me, and connects me to the earth. But in the day-to-day, I choose my laptop over life outside waaaaay too often (meaning pretty much every day). I am going to work at finding a way to incorporate time outdoors into my day-to-day. Let's all look for one thing that uplifts our spirit and find a way to do it more often. An uplifted you is an encouraged, nothing-is-impossible, growing you.

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  • The company you keep...makes a difference in your own spirit and joy. Are your closest friends encouragers? Is your success a threat or a joy to them? Pay attention to who is around you. The Bible says "a little leaven leavens the whole loaf." This can be a good thing, or a word of warning. Look for the leaven that lifts rather than poisons. You are more likely to be a lifter yourself if you are surrounded by lifters.

New year = new you? Nope, not exactly. But it's also not "New year = same old me." This year I am going for "New year = gradually growing and changing me." It's not terribly catchy but I do hope it's true. What about you?